Generalising Men and Women
In my own views, generalising men and women is somewhat common to our society. But who does it, who implemented the idea of men being emotionally insensitive? who said women were more irrational? To my knowledge and for the modern society, it is mainly caused by the media we're exposed to and i believe the media even with scientific support, exaggerates the validity of the theories made.
However, the average people, more or less disbelieves what they have heard. In response, they believe it to be the opposite of what is proposed or theorised. But i'm here to say, in my opinion, taking sides in this arguments is a person with a one tracked mind.
Sure, physically it is scientifically proven man and woman differ, the height, the weight, the facial structure and all that anatomy crap. But for people to believe in such theories as suggested from above, it becomes objective to say what a man is able to while woman can't. Why? because of the human nature to feel more superior.
"Ladies, don't say you don't feel the same way, if it was back in the days, your thinking's would be correct but nowadays equality exist, not to mention extra privileges that you're able to enjoy now but it never seems to be enough, right?"
Now this is what i call one sided, but this is a subjective matter(in this context, it means it varies from one person to another), it may be true for some and at the same time, some of you will go ape sh*t against such statement being made. The latter response is also a subjective question, are you mad because it's not true, or are you mad because it's true but denying it?
Different minds, different thinking, different actions, regardless of gender
Always remember, not every girl is alike, not every guy is the same, in terms of our thinking. This is what i like to emphasize about, both men and women are capable of being equal or better than each other. To be generalised by media, especially shows that are discriminative or manipulative in nature is something you should never be taken too serious of. While for individuals who give in to such beliefs can never be reasoned with, you can go head to toes with them but they are as immovable as the donkeys in Ireland. However, i can see why, because if you were to go into their shoes, it's possible that belief is made reality by the people around them.
And to be honest, one's mind is easily influenced if you never see the world as a whole and think for yourself. I've been there before in the past, one belief would be thinking that women nowadays only look for the rich and/or handsome. But that extends to men too.
Generalising is only bad if you took it from a narrow view, in a wider view or in other words when you interact with different people, you'll see that the amount of exceptional individuals of each general assumption of the public is much larger in quantity as it has been perceived by the society.
Understanding and accepting other peoples views/opinions and suggestions.
But nowadays, what constructed this dividing wall of men and women is probably the dwindling number of good people. Chivalry, honesty, loyalty, generosity and most importantly kindness and understanding, the ability to understand and fully accept one's existence/behaviour/thinking/actions and hence give support/help to the individual. Currently, i'm trying to instil this important trait through here and from example. Without it, there can never be a peaceful compromise between conflicting minds, revenge and hatred will always be present in the individuals mind and discrimination will always exist.
There's one moral value that is taught in our education institutes, and i wish to be reformed and add the important trait i mentioned, the moral value i'm talking about is tolerance, the reason for it is that after tolerance, for an example, a friend has a different opinion/view on the subject matter, you don't agree to it but mentions it to you, so if we only the step of just tolerating, are you able to tolerate it forever?
Often or not is not a factor because everyone has different levels of tolerance, but one day you'll eventually snap, or go ape sh*t. I find this situation to happen more often than not, behind the back of their dear friends.
It should be added that the next step you should take is understanding why your friend has a different opinion/view, how ever conflicting it is between yours, you have to understand why was it valid or correct for him/her to believe so. Remember, discussing is not the same as arguing, don't be too hard and directive in the conversation. Always listen what the other has to say.
After that , if you think it made sense to think that way, then you should come to a decision to accept his/her thinking. Even if it did not make sense, it made sense for the individual your conflicted with, so why try so hard to convince someone who can still live with what they believe in?
Anger and its inability to compromise
I for one, being a somewhat, ill-tempered, still wants to change that side of me, anger is always what leads to my emotional stress and i don't like it is affecting my life.
I met a lot of angry people myself, it's not whether this people like or don't like to be angry, it's just that anger is a much more susceptible to feel and more or less easier to shout out their opinions/views against the individual, rather than to calm themselves and think out a peaceful solution. See, if i wasn't as understanding as i am to others, i would have triggered the "Rage Button" countless times.
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All that is said and a lot was said, props to readers that are able to read until here, this way of thinking, that general rules of men and women are not so general after all, but it is hard to maintain and even harder to express, given that it is more easier to generalise something rather be analytical about it. Not a fast way to express your thoughts but it's true.
While the people who are understanding and accepting of people and their minds. It is nice to say that it can be cultivated if you are willing to take the steps for it, rather than be silent and tolerate it until it is impossible to do so. One should be open hearted, all the time when discussing something, always. Communication is much much needed, take it from me, a silent observer who cheers for the chances that he gets to chat with a single soul for a sufficient time.
