Where there is a will, you must find the way. [Long post]

I'm in no good mood, but doesn't mean i don't have some good advice to tell.

To the negative minded, life isn't always bad.
To the positive minded, life isn't always good.

The above two statements, how far is it true?

Through my blogging, I'm beginning to see a pattern of subjectiveness in all sorts of matters. I can't say nothing is for certain, there are practical things that are certain, like for a fact, if the sun is gonna blind you when you stare it too long then it's gonna blind you no matter what.

However, as i said, the human is always different and unique, you never know for certain a person is good or bad. To me, a person's life is never always bad nor is it always good. So why are there so many books that insist the "power of positive thinking" is always good for a person?

Throughout my life, that positive/negative thinking fluctuates from year to the next year. Back in Form 5, i strongly believed the power of positive thinking, in my way, i believed if you wish to have a happy and successful life, you should aim high and disregard what other people have to say otherwise. That belief was mainly caused by my brother, an Amway member, who were influenced by fellow members of their ways of positive thinking that led them to a successful life.

Gradually, that belief slowly fades away and after A-Levels, it started to seem like i began to loathe my life, a negative thinker. That positiveness was battered by reality, i was so damn naive and foolish. How can it be possible to be successful just thinking you can be successful? After so many years had passed, why haven't my brother achieved that success he believed to happen in a short period of time? And his path, i only witness destruction to himself and others around him. I don't want to get into this, it's just too... useless, to talk about him.

Anyways, my negativeness is slowly fading away, after around this year, i think i'll become a realist. To explain how why i'm different than the average realist though is that i possess both negative and positive thinking. See the title of this post? Which says,

"Where there is a will, you must find the way."

By changing and adding the words of this proverb, it clearly shows how i think. Maybe most people may have figured out this, but i only understand it recently, maybe a couple months back.

Before i explain any much further, i want to say that negative-thinking is and always never a good thing, i have it is because of my dark past. So i will encourage you to never have that kind of thinking.

Anywho, i want to talk about two kinds of positive thinking, one that is about life and one that is about success. It maybe hard for some of you to understand it that there are people who only think one side of things. How many sides can there be, you say, well it depends how wide your mind can open to see the world as it is.

The first kind, and firstly, don't ever say that life is never bad, because that clearly shows you that your ignorant of your own reality. How can life never suck? it's impossible, unless your crazy, that would explain alot. But you're not, so please realize and accept the 'ying and yang' of life. Being ignorant of the 'bads' in life will just hurt you even more when you fall in life, you can never escape it. However, facing reality doesn't mean you should not look up in your life, it means you are growing, you are maturing, and importantly, it better prepares you for whatever life throws at you.

Positive-thoughts about life should only be left to the lunatics and ironically, the children. Why? Because children are not always prepared to face reality, as they still don't understand it, giving them the wrong advice would totally ruin their view of life.

When you want to achieve something, imagining it so hard that you fool yourself to believe it will happen, won't work one bit. This is something more practical in the sense that affects the way of life instead of the view of life, so i'm emphasising more on why it's dangerous to really really ONLY want to succeed in life.

If you want to achieve your life's goal, simply plan at the present what you need to do first to make the first few steps, and of course actually doing them; you won't be able to see the view from the top, without walking up the stairs at the first place, you know what i mean? This advice probably's meant for people who are blinded by motivational books or speakers, they are the people that would tell half-truths to their listeners/readers rather than telling them what they should know.

Your life is certainly not always at your hand, and at those times you should make the best of it. But when it is, don't just throw it back into water, instead you should try harder to keep it in your hand.

Then i can guess now you would ask, why positive-minded people succeeded in life?
Seriously, you need me to answer that? Well simple, these people didn't tell you the requirement of it, or simply they brainwashed you into thinking that you only need positive thinking to achieve something. That's in a way how the Amway and other companies that similar works, how well they are able to influence people is quite complex, their brainwashing technique is so thorough that once you get in, you WON'T want to get out.

Anyways, the thing is that people that succeed in their life is because of through persuasive skills, added with really thick skins and of course, the positive mind. You have no idea how some would go to extreme lengths to attract more members into the company, and i tell you, not alot are capable. However, you won't see that only a few made it to the top, there's numerous people have made it. but. They show you the number who succeeded in the company, did they show you the number of members who joined the company? Yes, through this multi-level marketing system, the company is probably earning insurmountable sum of money, Amway surely succeeded in ruining the majority of lives i guess.

From my view, different system or not, i still see it as a business path, you still need the communicative skills, the connections, and the thick skin to do it, the only difference is that they trick you into believing that you don't need none of those skills and syphoning your money through it.

My advice is that you don't believe anything you read or listen too damn seriously. You have your own mind, common sense and a bit of thinking by yourself will tell you whether my realist view or the influences of positive thinking in your life, makes better sense? Well, if you still can't tell, the most easiest way is to see who succeeds in life and who doesn't.





Oh and to a certain someone, i only know it from someone, but whether it is true or not, it seems the past is coming back to haunt you, even though we're not as close as were before, please be safe wherever you are.